My Secret Garden

The woman who has planted a garden feels that she has done something for the good of the world.
Vita Sackville-West

My Grandchildren

I realize that I'm entirely non-objective, but I have to say that my grandchildren are truly beautiful.  My daughter, Chantal, as well as Hector and Ines, the grandchildren, will be visiting from England very soon.  We are renting a large vacation beach house in Duck, North Carolina.  My son, Jamie, will also be visiting.  I am so looking forward to seeing all of them.

Ines is very much like I was at her age.  As you can see, we closely resemble each other  She is strong-willing, artistic, and loves to dress up and play act.  She has the temper that goes right along with strong-willed children.  Her brother Hector, is a quiet, calm, and instrospective boy.  An old soul, you might say. 

My family is the most beautiful thing in my life,

Elaine

My Dog, the Telly Star

A few years ago, I had the wonderful opportunity of having our home featured on the HGTV program, “What You Get for the Money.” You can actually see the video sequence on our shop’s website by clicking here .

Dudley, our beloved Cavalier King Charles Spaniel appeared in the show, as well. Dudley is a truly charismatic dog, an old soul, who attracts admirers all over our Olde Towne neighborhood. As you know, these shows do rebroadcast over the years. Dudley is now receiving email from out-of-state admirers!

Lynn, a very talented artist from Colorado, emailed me after watching a rebroadcast of “What You Get for the Money.” She fell in love with Dudley and wants to paint him! Lynn sent along some examples of her art. I’ve featured two of these paintings here. She has a special talent for capturing the soul of an animal.

The Internet has brought some amazing opportunities to all of us as we research, do business, and keep in touch with friends by on-line chatting, Facebook, Skype, and e-mail. Just think of how some of our immigrant ancestors left home and dear family members behind, often to never see them again! I can connect with my children in London in an instant, and can even see and hear them in a free Skype conversation. So while the Internet can certainly be used for wrong purposes, it also serves to put me in touch with a lovely woman like Lynn, whom I would never have known otherwise.

I’ll keep you posted and share Dudley’s portrait once it is painted. While we wait, I think it is time to organize Dudley’s fan club.  I'm eager to see my Dudley in a painting, because Dudely makes my life beautiful,

Elaine

Fabulous Over Forty

When women reach a certain age, we walk a tightrope between being dowdy and frumpy and dressing too youthfully and looking ridiculous. Our mothers seemed to settle happily into Alfred Dunner togs and sensible shoes, but I believe that those of us who were wild children of the sixties are going less gently into that dark night of fashion abyss.

My mother’s fifty wasn’t my fifty. Actually, fifty is the new thirty. Being a grandmother used to mean abandoning fashion and looking like the late Queen mother, carrying a large black purse which closes with a loud snap and wearing hats in pastels which land on one’s head like a fluffy bird.

I want to look chic and au courante, not like a Sesame Street character. Think more Helen Mirren and less Duchess of Cornwall, Prince Charles’ wife.

My grandchildren call me, “GiGi” for “Glamorous Granny. For those of us who work in visual media, such as interior design, looking chic is imperative. WE are our best advertisement. As highly competitive as business has become, it is more important than ever before not to look dowdy.

Finding clothes isn’t as easy as it was in the days when I was running around London dance clubs, wearing white lipstick; perfectly willing to smash my feet into too-small high heels because they looked so smart.

Look how wonderful Helen Mirren looks in this pic.  Her make up is muted and understated.  Her hair is classic, but also young and chic.  The neckline of her dress and the jewelry choice are both working well for her.  No horsey frumpiness here...just fabulous!

Here are some of my best tips for living life beautifully through your wardrobe, gleaned from years of working towards chic and away from Grandma Moses:

Monitor and enjoy trends, but do not allow trends to own you. Your wardrobe should be filled with classic clothing which fits impeccably; basic long pants, cropped pants, skirts, dresses, and jeans that suit your figure. Keep a fresh young look with surprising accessories...this year’s trendy animal print, a fun cocktail ring or a wonderful scarf in seasonal colors.

Shop in several locations. Do not overlook stores which cater to a younger demographic, such as Banana Republic. You can find some cute things there.  The Banana Republic dress above would look wonderful on an older woman, perhaps with a little t-shirt or camisole underneath.  This is where your instinct for mixing classic pieces with a few of this year’s newest looks can blossom

Think outside the box and take advantage of shops which provide alterations. Last year I tried on a dress in Nordstrom’s with a wonderful 1960’s inspired print, trimmed in black. The dress was on sale. It looked wonderful from the hips up and terrible from there down. I had a brainstorm and had it altered into a very chic tunic that I wear all the time with classic black pants. In fact, I am wearing it in the pictures here on this blog entry, scrolling down a bit, where I'm showing you the grey purse.

Locate a good department store ally in either a professional shopper or a very knowledgeable sales person. Their advice will be invaluable and make your shopping experience more enjoyable.

If you’re wondering if you can get away with…you can’t.

Watch the décolletage, it isn’t so alluring with age spots on your chest. You needn’t be a nun, but adding nicely-fitted camisoles to your wardrobe can fill in that spot and freshen the look of a tunic or dress with a bit of a plunging neckline.  Even young women do this, it is fashion forward.

Good foundations are huge. Go to the trouble and expense to have a very good bra fitted by a professional. Don’t worry about what size you are measured. Whatever it is, you will look younger, prettier, and feel better in a properly-fitted bra. It makes all the difference.

One sentence: Spanx are your friend. If you don’t know what they are find out here: www.spanx.com.

Pay attention to hem lengths. Knees are cute on a coltish 17 year old, less so on a woman over forty. Knees tend to go all wobbly by then.

Don’t allow the fashion industry to push you to the side and settle for less of a smashing look than you would have worn in your twenties. We Baby Boomers now make up a huge demographic with buying power.  To paraphrase Johnny from Dirty Dancing, "Nobody puts Baby (Boomers) in the corner.

We have a wonderful woman’s magazine all our own, “More…for women of style and substance.” (www.more.com) If you haven’t seen it, check it out on line! More has wonderful fashion shoots for mature women using models our age. 

I had lunch with a dear friend recently.  We stopped in at Charming Charlies in MacArthur Center, Norfolk, VA.  I bought this spectacular bag with grey tulle roses all over it.  The cost was minimal, but picking up a lovely seasonal accent accessory updates my wardrobe for the warmer months  I am not in Charming Charlie's main demographic, but who cares?

Keeping my look fresh and updated is one way that I live life beautifully,

Elaine

Spring has returned.The Earth is like a child that knows poems. Rainer Rilke

Our home is in a densely populated part of our city called Olde Towne.  And yet, still I am surrounded by the palate of nature by the Elizabeth River on at the end of our block, as well as the trees, parks, and spring flowers of Olde Towne.

This is the time of the year when I begin to get our garden area in order. Our garden is secluded in the back, as the front of our hundred-year-old Victorian home sits directly on the street. The garden shivers a little today, a bit forlorn in our sunny, but cold again weather. It is quiet still; the grey brown shriveled leaves make whispery sounds in the breeze. The only signs of life are subtle buds on some plants.

Oh, but I have plans for my garden that I’ll share with you soon! My beautiful garden is my refuge as spring fully emerges, my sanctuary there among the blooms and the chirping birds. I pray and dream out there, think and plan, relax and wonder, and often entertain.

When I get into the shop on early spring days, I feel drawn to beautiful fabrics which echo the images I see around me in nature. I feel my heart beat just a little faster when I see the flowering trees in pink, green, and white against the blue skies

These beautiful floral fabrics are from one of my favorite companies, Colefax and Fowler, a British textile firm.

I also adore this exquisite white fabric from S. Harris called "Polaris."  This fabric has a silk background with cotton embrodery.  Despite the sort of "Northern Lights" name, the embroidered figures are actually small leaves contained in a rain drop shape.  Although this fabric is more quietly beautifull than the florals, the inspiration of spring still shines through. 

Joseph's Amazing Accomplishment

I am so proud of my husband!   Joseph has been involved in the martial arts since his days in England.  About ten years ago, he took up Tae Kwon Do.  Recently, he was awarded his third-degree black belt in a very moving ceremony at the Tae Kwon Do Center in Virginia Beach.  Afterwards, we celebrated as with his son Justin and family and some dear friends at Nara Sushi.  The food was superb and our moods filled with joy and laughter. 


Pictured above are the following:

Joseph after the award
Joseph with his instructor, Master Bae
Joseph and the entire club, with the youngest member on his lap
Joseph and his granddaughter at Nara Sushi

A reporter from the Virginian Pilot wrote a wonderful article about Joseph.  Now he is famous, with people commenting to both of us about this exciting news!

This is how Joseph lives life beautifully,

Elaine

True Colors by Kristin Hannah

I've read the most marvelous book lately; True Colors by Kristin Hannah.  Now it is a cliche to say of a book, "I couldn't put it down,' but in this particular case, it was the truth.  The book was riveting, marvelously written, the characters were engaging, and I was so engrossed in reading it that I was oblivious to everything around me.

True colors is the story of three sisters.  The characters are nuanced and drawn by the author with finesse.  I found myself really caring about what happened to each of them.

Kristin Hannah also has the most wonderful blog, which I will link you to here:

http://kristinhannah.com/blog/index.php

I strongly recommend this book.  It is a good read.  Keeping up with good books is one of the ways I live life beautifully.

                                                               Elaine